Supporting Your Teen’s Mental Health: What They’re Not Saying (But Really Need You to Know)

As school winds down and the scent of summer begins to fill the air, most of us are dreaming of sunshine, road trips, and maybe even a little Disney magic. But for our tweens and teens, this time of year isn’t always about freedom and fun. Behind the laughter, there can be lingering stress, emotional fatigue, and silent struggles they don’t always know how to share.

As a mom who still tears up watching “Inside Out” (yes, I’m that mom), I’ve learned that our teens’ mental health needs just as much attention as their report cards or summer plans. Much like a Disney movie, there’s always more going on beneath the surface.

Signs of Teen Burnout (Even if They Say They’re ‘Fine’)

Teens are experts at telling us they’re okay… even when they’re not. Sometimes it shows up in ways that seem like everyday “teen stuff,” but really, it’s burnout in disguise. Keep an eye out for:

• 💤 Sleep changes (sleeping way more… or barely at all)

• 😠 Irritability that feels more intense than usual

• 💔 Withdrawing from friends, family, or things they once loved

• 🤕 Frequent physical complaints, like headaches or tummy aches

• 🎢 Mood swings or emotional meltdowns over seemingly small things

Kind of like Elsa trying to “conceal, don’t feel,” our kids often push their emotions deep down. But with a little patience and a lot of love, we can help them let it go safely.

Creating Your Own Safe (and Judgment-Free) Castle

The key to supporting your teen is simple but not always easy: be their safe place. Not the fixer. Not the perfect parent. Just someone who’s there, no matter what.

• Find magic in the mundane. Some of our best heart-to-hearts happen on a froyo run or folding laundry together.

• Listen like Olaf. No interrupting. No “back in my day…” Just be present.

• Validate their feelings. “That sounds really hard. Want to talk more about it?” can go a long way.

• Keep the door open. Even if they brush you off, knowing you’re there means everything.

• Share your story. Age-appropriate vulnerability builds connection. You’ve felt overwhelmed too—don’t be afraid to say so.

Resources That Can Help 

Just like every hero needs a guide, our teens sometimes need more than we can give alone. Here are a few supportive tools:

• The Jed Foundation – Teen-focused mental health education

• Teen Line – A safe space where teens can talk to trained teen volunteers

• Mental Health America – Support for both teens and parents

• Therapists & school counselors – A little outside support can make a big difference

• In crisis? Call or text 988, the 24/7 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

You’ve Got the Magic

You don’t need a magic wand (though I wouldn’t turn one down!). Your presence, love, and listening ear are more powerful than you think. Even if your teen doesn’t say it now, they feel it. Deeply.

So, here’s to navigating the summer ahead with grace, open hearts, and maybe a few extra Mickey-shaped snacks. Because our teens? They’re worth every ounce of the effort.